Ever feel an unexpected feeling of resentment? Why does this happen? How can you get rid of the toxic feelings?
This is an activity that brings up the past experiences and you as an adult can address them.
Feeling stuck often makes us have no purpose and we may feel depression. I am going to give you a 5-step process for this.
It is all done by firstly keeping an event diary in your daily life. Keep track of the day-to-day events. This will act as a way of making you aware of the triggers that cause you to feel inadequate.
The triggers are the situations that cause you anxiety. They ignite the past failures or traumas. The diary helps your hidden parts of you to become conscious. You see exactly when, how, why, and with whom you react with adversity. This activity is done by keeping a diary of your behaviours.
This is an example of a diary:
Day / Time | Incident/Trigger | Beliefs | Emotional Feeling | Behaviour | Consequence |
This is an example from a client of mine who filled out the table:
This is how the Event Table should look:
Day / Time | Incident/Trigger | Beliefs | Emotional Feeling | Behavior | Consequence |
3/4/2020 3:30 pm | Not washing the dishes | I am the slave in the house and disrespected | Anger and contempt | Cutting my arm to feel relief | Everyone calling me names, feeling like an idiot |
This is for you to fill out:
Day / Time | Incident/Trigger | Beliefs | Emotional Feeling | Behavior | Consequence |
Then when you spot the habit in the diary you can trace them back to your timeline or childhood and see why you feel like that today. Then as the adult version of you it is easy to heal the present reactions because you can find your limiting beliefs and change your reaction and become more fulfilled.
We have the ability to change our belief of an event. We don’t have to go on behaving the same way we did as a child. Even in the face of injustice, we don’t have to hold onto the pain and act out accordingly. We can change our belief about the event and find a different way of dealing with the situation. We are not victims but are conquerers of our destiny. Choose to be your truest destined self! You might like these videos too
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