The following is an example of how your past enslaves you and how learning to be helpless takes place. It happens today with many wild animals. This is an example of elephants. Many zoos and circuses get their elephants from abroad. Many are either orphaned or stolen infants.
They are taken to a reserve where employees tie them to a pole, and the infant might pull and pull for endless days. They soon accept that the noose around their neck is not loosening, and then they become domesticated from the wild.
These animals lose their identity, purpose and family bond. The animal learns to obey the trainer and to perform ludicrous tricks. It becomes depressed and miserable and later has infants with reprogrammed genes that are also domesticated. The animals generate money for their owners and entertainment for their spectators.
The elephants in the previous example can be compared to people. Many try to push you into doing or being the way they want you to be. But it is your job to step out of the victim role and take responsibility for your life. Stand up for your values, however daunting they are. You may feel like an impostor in the beginning, but by standing up for yourself regularly, you become the protagonist.
I heard a talk by Jordon Peterson about adopting a monster persona. I was a little shocked but then realized how right he is. All heroes in movies have a monster persona. They are rebels and fight against the norms, like Batman and Harry Potter who fight against the rules. If you are too passive in life and accept the status-quo, you adopt the rabbit persona that when it gets caught, it gets eaten!
Taking Your Power Back from Controllers
If you are subservient to the past and are not taking responsibility to speak your truth, you will be kept in negativity.
Just accept people as they are. Aim to work a different, more assertive program.
This is an example of how to put your boundaries. “Listen, I’m glad you’re expressing your opinion. You’re entitled to it. However, it’s your opinion. It’s the way you see things, and it’s your perception. It doesn’t mean I’ve got to agree with it.” Even though you have been hurt by others opinions, remember what Bernard Meltzer said, “When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.”
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