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Fine Or Fulfilled

Fine Or Fulfilled

Fine means comfortable and not wanting to achieve anything more. It means giving up on what you want and convincing yourself you are fine. You might mean being dependent and stuck in a heartless relationship but are delusional that you are fine.

When you do nothing, you stay stuck in mediocracy. You hit the snooze button because you do not want to give up your securities. You will never change by accepting you are just fine. It is human nature to steer away from pain and to choose security. But the issues that hurt the most are the things you must deal with.


When you fear change, you are not broken in any way. Your brain is wired to be comfortable and not challenge change. The issue is not that you are incapable of achieving but that you do not act. This is what stops you from getting what you want. Robbins claims the first 5 seconds that you have an impulse of doing something positive, act on it. The emergency brake gets pulled if you do not act.


Changing bad habits is not easy. It means going past your fears and habits of all your past programming. You must force the “activation energy” or the new belief to kick you into being who you want to be.

Mel Robbins uses the skill of the 5-second rule, which uses the activation energy to count down from 5 to 1 and act upon impulses before they are lost. It changes your habits, and the brain kicks into a new way of doing things and achieving more. It is like a rocket ship being launched: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. You must act because after 1, there is nothing but action.

Mel Robbins says, “Sometimes, amid the storm of life, the biggest accomplishment you can make is to 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 take a deep breath, approach your situation from a balanced place. That sense of balance is your superpower.” The scientific reason why the 5-second rule works is you control the events in your life. Amy Arnsten states the part of the brain that helps in decision making and goal setting is the prefrontal cortex.

The counting down from 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 is a conscious activity. It pushes you from autopilot to being in control of the prefrontal cortex. If you have an impulse and do not marry it with a physical action within 5 seconds, you will pull the emergency brake and kill the idea.

“Start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with your heart shaking. Just start.” Mel Robbins.For similar videos press here

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